How to Get More Blowjobs
There was a Dr. Phil show I came across with an actress Kim Cattrall of Sex and the City. The show was all about the common sexual challenges couples are faced with.
You know the complaints, no time for sex, no interest in sex, and the one that caught my attention, a man wondering how to get his girlfriend to give him more
blowjobs. The problem was that the girlfriend thinks that oral sex is disgusting. But, in the beginning of the relationship, when they were first dating,
she participated by giving blowjobs and acted like she enjoyed it. Then as Dr. Phil said, "she pulled a bait n switch", which is when a woman pretends to enjoy sex
just to move you towards commitment.
Blowjob Bait n Switch
Dr. Phil pointed out that you can't really force your girl to give you blowjobs, which is true, and he pointed out how important communication is. So first we need
to be clear on why girls don't want to give blowjobs.
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Why Many Women Don't Enjoy Blowjobs
1. You are selfish and don't reciprocate.
2. You Smell Funny.
3. Your Pubic Hair is out of control and constantly gets in her mouth.
4. It takes forever to get you off.
5. You insist that she swallow and she hates how you taste.
6. She never enjoyed it but she pretended to in the beginning to get you to commit.
The top five reasons are quite simple to fix. If you are selfish you need to get over yourself because sooner or later it is not only blowjobs
that you won't be getting anymore. As for smelling funny, just take a shower or a soak before getting married. If your pubic hair is out of control, just
trim it a little. If your girl is like me, she may even find it really sexy if you had no hair down there. Now, if it comes down to choosing
between no blowjobs or simply no swallowing, where is the contest really? Though, to make yourself taste better you can always drink more fruit juice, like
papaya as it can greatly help the taste.
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But what do you do about the fact that it takes such a long time to reach an orgasm with a blowjob? Let's face it, you like getting blowjobs because of the mental
and visual stimulation more than the physical. Unless you are still a teenager or you are a virgin who doesn't masturbate, the stimulation of a women's mouth just can't match that
of your hand or the pussy. This may mean a woman has to work really hard, for quite a long time in order to take you over the edge.
Shortening the time it takes
How do you shorten the amount of time it takes? You cheat! You bring in assistance. You can either get things started yourself or she can use her hands as well as her mouth or even some toys.
They key is to get out of the mindset that she has to use her mouth from start to finish in order for it to be a real blowjob. Instead, get into the mindset that
the easier you make it for her, the more frequently you are going to feel her lips around your manhood.
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Blowjobs just aren't for me
Okay, now for the woman that says that blowjobs just aren't for them. This is where good communication comes in. You need to find out why she is not into it.
Maybe she thinks that a women giving a blowjob is being subservient, in which case you need to talk through it. If she thinks it is perverted you have a bigger challenge. But again, a good talk, where you are willing to listen rather than
demand can do good to move you in the right direction.
As for the bait n switch. You need to remind her why oral sex is so good. Give her some great oral sex and hopefully she will reciprocate. As well, maybe try the 69 position so you
are both giving oral sex to each other and she won't feel like she is just pleasing you. Women enjoy sex and sexual acts as much as you do, but if she just stops
giving you blowjobs or even sex, there is probably a reason.
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